未完待续….
儿子转学的七七八八
Song Transfer School
Why
我是09年来的北京，那会互联网正是一片蓝海，机会大把的事，只要不走错太多，互联网的红利基本上都能吃到一些，我也一直在互联网公司兜兜转转，从Java到大数据转型、从新浪百度再到京东，整体来讲我的工作经历还算比较顺利，发不了大财，但也没像传的怎么累着，结婚、生子、买房人生几个大事都是在这完成的，弹指之间也到了上有老下有小的处境，也遇到了这个北漂群体的致命难题，就是没有户口，小孩无法参加北京的高考。在京无户口的孩子，有2个选择，一个是回老家，一个是去隔壁的天津。我老家山东作为高考大省，终于从那走出来了，也不希望孩子再回去接受一遍我们小时候的教育锤炼。相比较老家，天津的教育、环境、便利性都要好很多，我们几年前也决定走第二条路。
转学天津在几年前我们就定好了，并且在17年完全没了解清楚的情况下，在天津红桥区买了一套一居室，那时候孩子还小也没想太早转过去，买完就出租出去。但随着他越来越大，转学的时间点也是迫在眉梢，这事一下就提到了最高优先级。我们了解了天津的教育分片之后，决定在天津河西一贷款买个老破小，买房过程没什么复杂，跟以前一样很快购入一套老破小。办完过户已经是2022年的冬天了。
待续…
** 2023年
** 2024年
story_time
My Grandfather’s Village
This is a photograph of my grandfather’s village. My grandfather and his wife, my grandmother, live there.
It’s in a valley between two hills. The oldest building in the village is the school. My sister and i like to
play in the park beside the school and climb the trees. Sometimes, We watch the children coming out of the school.
The village is near a river. My family and i like walking along the bank in the evening. It’s very peaceful, and
we can hear the birds. Another thing we like to do is swim in the river. My father and i enjoy jumping into the river
when it’s hot. The water is cold, but it’s fun!
shark_lady
Eugenie Clark, Shark Lady
Eugenie Clark is a famous scientist, She has spent her life studying fish. Sharks are some of her favorite fish. Eugenie has traveled around the world to learn about different kinds of sharks. Many people call Eugenie Clark the “shark lady.”
When Eugenie was a young girl, she spent hours observing fish at the New York Aquarium. Eugenie learned about different kinds of fish, and she pretended she was in the water with them. She wondered what it would feel like to be one of the fish.
At home, Eugenie set up her own fish tank. She watched her fish carefully and took notes about what they did. She Wrote about fish and read about them. It was her dream to become a scientist someday.
Not many women were scientists when Eugenie was young.But that didn’t stop her. When Eugenie went to college, she took science classes and became a fish expert.
Eugenie decided to dive deep in the sea, so she could study fish where they live.She learned how to dive with a mask and how to use underwater breathing equipment.
The first time Eugenie saw a shark under the water, she was surprised. The huge shark swam right past her. Eugenie thought it was beautiful, and she was sorry when it swam away.
Eugenie traveled to different parts of the world to study fish. She wrote about her work and became a Well-Known scientist. Then she was asked to start a lab in Florida. The lab was a place where Eugenie and other scientists could study fish.
In the lab, Eugenie tested lemon sharks to see how smart they were. Eugenie trained the sharks to do things. The sharks learned to ring a bell to get food.
Eugenie Clark says that she is not afraid of sharks. She is too interested in them to be scared. But she also says it is important to understand how sharks act.
Eugenie used an underwater cage to study great white sharks. These sharks can be dangerous to people, but Eugenie studied them from inside the cage where she was safe. She observed the sharks and took pictures of them.
Eugenie even went for a ride on a whale shark, the biggest fish in the sea. She grabbed the shark as it swam by her. Then she tried to sit on the shark’s back, but she couldn’t stay on.
Eugenie slid down and held on to the shark’s tail for as long as she could. The shark swam faster and faster. But Eugenie did not feel scared.
Finally, Eugenie had to let go. As she watched the huge shark swim away, she felt happy. Eugenie had learned what it felt like to be a shark!
Eugenie Clark has spent her life studying sharks and other fish. she loves to share what she was learned about them. She talks to scientists and students who visit her lab. She writes books, and she writes articles for magazines, too. Eugenie hopes that other people will love learning about the sea.
- Some Things Eugenie Clark Has Learned About Sharks
- Shark are smart animals. The remember what they learn.
- Sharks eat many kinds of sea animals. They eat fish, crabs,and even other sharks.
- Most sharks are timid and stay away from people.
职场汇报
职场汇报
将员工的表现反馈给员工是非常重要的，不仅能帮助员工更加明确自己的努力方向，更能激励员工的士气，提高员工的工资效率。
防止出现 “差之毫厘，失之千里”
他们确实不善于汇报工作或害怕与领导沟通，尽管他们的工作做得不错
及时反馈是加强与领导沟通的一条重要途径
督促自己，让自己的工作安排得更有条理
定期向上司汇报工作
通过一定的方式让领导看得到你的努力
领导随便听听，但你不要随便做做
智者千虑必有一失
唱、念、做、打样样精通
一个没有自己声音的人也就失去了他的用处
建设性的意见往往会被接受
领导看中：1、他的上司是否信任他 2、他的下属是否尊重他
不要在领导问起时再汇报
汇报内容：已经完成、正在工作、将要工作的事情
准确表述
克服害怕与领导沟通的心态
领导的批评一般是对事不对人，他只是就事论事，那些负面的评论并非是他对你本人有微词
提高能见度，从汇报工作开始
工作一项项安排下去后，就想断了线的风筝一样杳无音信
汇报工作是让领导了解情况和了解自己的机会
让问题终止于你
积极为成功找方法，不为失败找借口
找借口是人的一种自我保护的本能
工作失误要花更多的时间、精力和财力来修正
做了不等于做好了
第一次就把事情做到位
没有任何一件事小到可以被抛弃
细微之处见精神
过去，只有适者能够生存，今天，只有最快处理事务的人才能生存
限定完成期限
不管你现在从事什么工作，在何种岗位上，面对工作，你都需要让自己跑起来
热爱你的工作，是做好工作的前提条件
始终保持微笑
凡事预则立不预则废
分清最重要的事，重要之事不可受芝麻绿豆小事的牵绊
除了这种方法，就没有其他更好的方法处理了吗
职场不相信眼泪，不相信苦劳，只需要功劳
言简意赅
我马上处理排查，有进展会立马同步
请您放心，我马上处理
立马付诸行动
您给我点时间让我再想一下，下班前我再给您答复
让领导感受到你积极主动的态度
语气、语速、语境
“正因为他粗鲁，所以我我采用委婉的方式对待他，否则不就吵起来了吗？再说，道理一说就明白了，根本用不着大声说啊”
对方充分理解和接受，才能收到说话的预期效果
口头汇报
瞬间机会的把握上
不该说时说，叫急躁
该说时不说，叫隐瞒
不看对方的脸色变化便贸然开口，叫冒失
我们在与领导沟通时，也需要选准说话的时机
先扬后抑的转折句间接地提出你的想法
“我非常佩服您一贯果断的工作作风，但是，咱们这款产品属于高档产品，而我们目前对周围的居民区的消费水平还不太了解，如果
不事先进行市场调查，就怕咱们费了功夫而成效不佳呀”
站在对方的立场看问题
一个下属能站在领导的立场上去说话，是理解领导的最好的方式
— 未完待续.
儿子语录
儿子语录
2021-05-05 晚
正在拉琴的儿子: “妈妈，你不是说去看柯南么，怎么不去”
“儿子比看柯南重要”
“那妈妈，守信用重要，还是儿子重要”
妈妈: “这…..”
“儿子，画一条横线就是x轴，垂直线是y轴，相交的就是你们学的0，横着往右就是正无穷，儿子，你能说出一个最大的数字么”
“能，1兆”
“1兆是什么？？”…脑子已经不够教儿子了。…
2019-10-07 晚10点
马上睡觉了。
儿子跟我说道“爸爸，妈妈今天一句也没夸我，都是说我的不好”
“哈哈，没事，我发现了很多优点，我来夸你吧”
“好哇”
“我看到很多优点，我随便说几条：”
晚饭吃了4个小煎包，符合我们定的减肥减餐，表扬
白天做了好几页语文试题，让我做都觉得辛苦，你完成了，表扬
上午出去遛狗，在小广场上，你帮助别人推婴儿车、看小孩，很棒，给你点赞
今天户外的运动量很大，差不多1-2小时，很棒
“优点挺多的，就不列举了，4条表扬可以好好睡觉了吧”
开心说道：“好的。爸爸，我要睡了“…
2019-10-26
儿子：”妈妈我划着手了“
妈妈：“没破额”
儿子龇牙咧嘴地说：“疼重要还是破重要，你想想“
好像很有道理，哈哈哈哈
2020-09-01
儿子：”我想变成一个核弹“
爸：”为什么？“
儿子：“每天只需要考虑2个问题，1、飞不飞 2、炸不炸“
我……
教练型辅导模型
教练型辅导模型
助推型
对员工进行助推型辅导，当员工没有自信时：
开导辅导：明确说明目的，给予认可，提升信心。
澄清现状：通过倾听的方式来了解情况，采用引导式提问，如果对方答对，就给鼓励，如果没答对，分享自己，然后继续引导。
共创方案： 采用引导式提问，让对方自己思考出解决方案，必要的时候，给予一定的补充，最后形成解决方案。
共识行动：引导对方降方案完整复述一遍，定下进一步跟进的时间点
结束辅导：确认对方现在是否还有担忧，给对方打气、鼓励。
改善型
对员工进行改善型辅导，当员工清晰激动时：
开启辅导：应特别注意对方的情绪，用各种RULES平复对方的情绪
澄清现状：通过倾听方式来了解情况，同事注意对方的情绪，如果仍然比较激动时，可以用各种RULES来平复对方的情绪
共创方案： 如果对方说没办法，请先不要生气，说明愿意和对方一起想办法，先明确现状，然后通过倾听的方案，引导对方一步步思考方案，当方案形成时，不要急于安排，而是要确保能执行到位
共识行动： 可以通过让对方说出方案的方式来确认对方对于方案的接受程度，并定出跟进方案
结束辅导： 利用“认可”，“理解”给对方打气、鼓励
问题型
开启辅导：说明这次辅导的目的-解决工作中的问题,并给出事实
澄清现状：1)收集员工对于目前问题的想法，收集过程中，对方很有可能会有各种武杰或找各种科光理由，这是请使用事实进行引导，始终由事实出发，以解决工作问题出发，而不评价对方的人品；2）明确的给出对方可能的选择（a:限时改进，b:进行处罚）, 但表明希望能向好的方向发展
共创方案： 通过倾听对方，确认对方对于如何解决问题有很清晰的方法
共识行动： 1)请对方亲口说出自己的承诺，2）明确跟进方式，跟进时间等
结束辅导： 表明期待他的改变，会后与对方邮件确认辅导内容。
The HomeRun Trophy
The HomeRun Trophy
Maddy and her brother Alex are on the same baseball team. Maddy is good at baseball. She can catch and she can hit. It’s all easy for her. Alex doesn’t think it’s easy. He usually sits on the bench, and the coach never asks hime to play.
“I want to play, too,” Alex says after the game.
“Do you even know how to play?” Maddy says,laughing.
Alex’s face turns red.
“I have an announcement,” the coach says. “The player with the most home runs at the end of the season will win a trophy.”
Maddy looks at Alex and declares, “I’m going to win.”
I need a plan, Alex thinks. I want to win the trophy and show them that I can play well, too. He decides to practice every day.
Alex practices every day in the backyard, but Maddy doesn’t. I don’t need to practice, she thinks, because I’m very talented!
“Wait until the next game,” she tells Alex. “I’m going to hit a lot of home runs.” She sits and watches TV.
At th next game, a player is sick, so the coach asks Alex to play. Maddy plays, too. but she doesn’t hit any home runs.
The game is almost over. she thinks to herself. Are we going to lose?
When it’s Alex’s turn to bat, there are three players on base. To everyone’s surprise. Alex hits the ball hard. It flies high into the air and over the wall. It’s a home run!
The players run around the baces. and the team wins the game! The coach’s mouth is open wide. The other players are jumping up and down and cheering.
“Practicing works.” Alex syas quietly, and he smiles.
Alex keeps practicing. The coach lets him play more often. He hits a lot more home runs! Maddy hits home runs,too. but she doesn’t feel like she’s the star of the team anymore.
I’m going to try harder. she thinks at the end of a game.
But when she gets home, she doesn’t practice.
Maybe tomorrow, she thinks. Anyway, I’m very talented. I’m going to win that trophy.
After the last game of the season. the coach talks to the players.
“Great season, everyone.” he says. “Now, It’s time to award our home run trophy.” He smiles and hands it to Alex. “Congratulations, Alex, you had the most home runs this season!”
Everyone claps—except Maddy. She’s so disappointed. She’s quiet for a long time.
On the way home, she tells Alex. “I really wanted that trophy. But you worked very hard for it. I’m proud of you.”
Alex is very surprised. “Thnks.Maddy.” he says. “Maybe we can practice together next season.”
“That’s great idea!” Maddy says.
